Mr. Besilly's Blog

To Be Or Not To Be

A woman heard an inspiring message from a life coach that asked the question, "Are you a human being or a human doing?" The speaker encouraged the audience to rethink their frantic pace of 'doing' in life and choose to live healthier by 'being' in the moment. He laid out a compelling argument for everyone to just 'be' and learn how to become present without distraction. It turns out that many people feel trapped in the doing and are desperately aching to be.

His message was a bit lost in translation as the woman heard, "Are you a human B or a human doing?" She chose to make the right choice and started living as a human B which gained her little more than people starring. Sometimes we hear what we want to hear and miss the real message, sending us off in the wrong direction because of our own limitations. We're simply not going to learn what we don't want to know.

Is that any way to be?

When We Dare To Dream

“If you make the world a little better, then you have accomplished a great deal.”

When our deepest desire is to leave the world something that makes it a better place than when we found it, the possibilities are endless. It's these kinds of dreams that come true everyday. You'll be surprised how often the resources reveal themselves when the goal is aimed outward. John Kanzius set out to cure cancer in his garage using hot dogs, his knowledge of radio waves and his wife's pie tins. John is not a doctor of medicine but he is turning the medical world upside down with his discovery. Funding is coming in from places John never imagined possible.

10 Life Lessons I Learned Playing Grown-Up

For me, growing up has been more difficult than I had ever anticipated. It appears that I may not be as far along as I had originally thought. Some of the first things to go when I started playing grown up was riding a bike, jumping on a trampoline and running down hills. I've realized that complaining more, forgiving less and focusing on making money over making friends are all worse things than having cooties.

I've chosen to start reversing those errors in the past two years, though I'll admit I have used our trampoline more for afternoon naps than I have for jumping. That makes me happy.

Keeping The Air In Your Balloon

Here's the thing, you're the only person who can choose to give up and let the air out of your own balloon. Allowing the opinions or the discouraging chatter of others should never dictate that decision. Most of us have projects, dreams and life visions that we have launched headlong into. It takes passion along with dedication to keep our visions and dreams in motion. It also takes equal parts encouragement to press on. Especially when things become a bit scary and we feel all alone in it. 

You're not the only one battling with personal discouragement. There's an entire bleacher full of people like you pushing forward in spite of feeling a bit deflated. It's part of the process. I'm not saying don't let go if you feel confirmation in your heart that it's time. What I am saying is don't let go for the wrong reasons. Feelings change, they will pass.

Do Something Already!

You knew this day was coming. It's 2008, proof that another calendar year has passed and you're still stuck in first gear. It would be easy to come up with some broad generalization as to why you feel stuck and then apply a useless cliché on how you can fix your divine self. You're way past that already.

Allow me to interject a reasonable first step, do something and do it now. Doing something meaningful towards your goal will lead to another step. You are so ready to break out of that same ordinary bubble you've been floating around inside for the past year. Doing something, anything in a fresh direction will spark the inertia needed to create momentum. 

If You Have To Ask...

If you  have to ask the question, "Am I stuck in a rut?", chances are that the answer is a resounding yes. You're only hoping that someone in close proximity can talk you out of the truth. Good luck with that. Now that you know the answer, choose to do something about it.

What's Your Story?

Every year it seems like the world of pop literature finds a new low point. Last year Oprah looked on with horror as James Frey's "A Million Little Pieces" was outed for being less than authentic, a book filled with fabrications. The amazing fact is that even after all of the controversy "A Million Little Pieces" remained a best seller for another 26 weeks bringing James Frey more than $4.4 million in royalties. Thank you Oprah.

This year you will be starring down the barrel of another low of sorts in pop literature delivered in the form of "Slash", a "living the low life" memoir that redefines, sex, drugs and rock 'n roll. As if somehow the world needed that kind of subject matter redefined. The book is being billed as an intensely personal account of the struggle and triumph that Guns N' Roses guitarist Slash encountered from his childhood up to present. You won't find this one in Oprah's book club.

Don't Go With The Flow

It's easy to get caught up in going with the flow and following the trends. It's not so easy to carve out your own path or develop a way that is not flowing in the same direction as everyone else out there. It's never easy choosing a different bearing, away from the accepted standard.

Look at the iPhone. It's a standard maker that all of the other cell phone manufactures now want to emulate and will be measured against going forward. It completely shifted the flow in a new direction right out of the box.

Stop focusing so much energy on going with the flow. The truth is, you are the flow. You can make a difference. Believing it is the hardest part.

"Dont' go with the flow. You are the flow."   Sugi Tanaka

It's Your Life: Some Assembly Required

If you have ever looked at a stack of flattened cardboard boxes, you would realize that it's no more than a pile of pressed paper. Boxes are created with a purpose in mind. That purpose can only begin to be realized once the box is assembled and then used. That's why every photo marketing boxes for sale shows them assembled, describing what they can best be used for. Without being assembled and then being out there in circulation, without being used, the cardboard boxes remain in a pile of flattened paper product taking up space.

5 Things I Learned From A Snail

When searching for life lessons to live by, you can gain a great advantage by focusing downward to find the big lessons in extremely small packages. I chose to observe the snail and found no shortage of surprisingly simple wisdom in the life of my tiny friend. Here are the 5 things I learned from a snail.

1. Always look up.

2. Move through life slowly.

3. Sometimes we can all be a little slimy.

4. By all means avoid salt, it can kill you.

5. You'll enjoy life more if you learn how to come out of your      shell.